Friday, 20 January 2017 19:05

UGH! What Cripes You?

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I just want to scream!!!! It is so unbelievably agitating when you think that you have everything figured out and then it happens. Something tries to bring you down. In my case, it is usually my oldest son. He is always getting himself into these situations with people that he always knows are only out for themselves; no matter how many times he always goes back to the so-called friendship. He is loyal to his friends to a fault, and they are all the same age having all made mistakes and paid the price. You would think that they would learn by now that it’s time to change their life. Look at what keeps happening and make the change. And who do they turn to MOMMY every single time? Being that person I tried to hold my ground and make sure he understands that I cannot keep bailing him out. But then again I always seem to run to the rescue. To be the one to pick him up when he falls; how do I make it stop. I know that he is an adult and should be left to fix his mistakes, but as a mom, it is hard to say no. I do find that it has gotten easier as time has gone on but when he is stranded, it is hard to say “nope you figure it out.”  I know, I know. You think why run and help him. He needs to learn on his own how to fix his problems. And you are right; he does need to start fixing his disasters. But I have done it so often that he doesn’t know how or is there something wrong with me that I cannot seem to let him fall on his face. Insert Scream here!! Time to be strong and let him fall that is the thing to do. He is a big boy; he will get back up again. Time to make my stand put me first where he is concerned time to say no and mean it. I can do this. I will do this, and he will be a better man for it.

How many of you have had the same inner monolog with yourself? It is hard being a parent and making the decision to walk away when they continue to make the same mistakes over and over is not always an easy one. Trust me, I know! But listen it is the best thing to do for both of you. It took me a long time to realize that, and I'll admit that it is still not easy some days. But they are never going to make it if we don't stop being a part of the problem.

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